This space is dedicated to push the edges of our box, or ego, and to see the possibilities that lie outside of it. We live in a world that is focused on the mind. A world that has become dependent on information, on knowing with certainty. Men are largely focused on technology more than women. We have been trained to use our intellect and ignore feelings when confronted with problems and conflict. As a result, we have drifted away from authenticity and skillful communication from our hearts. This space is dedicated to experimenting with tools and concepts that push the limits of our comfort zones and into territories that ignite changes. You can make this your call to adventure. Real adventure. Real danger. Real transformation.
In modern culture men are taught to suppress and modify their feelings in ways that are specific to being a 'man' in the modern world. We are taught that feeling is not OK and that men must be tough and fearless. From my own experience as a man, and after talking to other men, I estimate that most of us feel disconnected from something we can't quite put our finger on. What is it that we are disconnected from? What are we missing out on or losing as men in such a technologically and mentally focused world? What I and so many other men are longing for is authenticity and genuine connection. Our typical gatherings together consist of surface level and ordinary connections, usually in the participation of numbing substances and activities i.e. beer, pot, video games, TV. I don’t think these are good or bad, it only depends on their consequences and how we feel about them. I want to create more opportunities for men to take part in holding spaces that are extraordinary, that push our comfort zones, that evoke transformation, that help us heal trauma and past wounds, that create genuine friendship and relation.
A safe and confidential space
The space is held with integrity, respect, and love. This is a totally confidential space, meaning nothing shared in the circle is to be shared or discussed outside unless consent is giving. Every meeting will begin with an agreement to confidentiality. Content such as tools and other context goodies can be shared with the exclusion of any personal information or experiences.
What will we do?
We will learn and use tools, skills and experiments that serve the purpose (see above) of the space. We will embark on experiments and practices that may be very fun and active and may also be uncomfortable. We will try things and decide if they work, implementing them into our lives. We will learn how to communicate and connect more effectively with one another. We will learn what feelings are and how to distinguish them from emotions and feel them in their purest form.
The list goes on and on.
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